INTERVIEWING THE LOVE EXPERTS

INTERVIEWING THE LOVE EXPERTS

I chose to interview my husband because we have been married for over twenty six years. We married on January 15, 1990 and till this day we are still together. We have had ups and downs through our marriage and I know that we are not the perfect couple, but we have been able to manage life during this twenty six years together. We planned together both of my pregnancies and we both decided when was the right time to have a baby. We waited two years before I became pregnant and we used these time to travel and we both enjoyed our marriage during this time alone. When my children were born everything changed. My husband asked me if I wanted to be a stay home mom and I agree with him. At that given time it was the best for our family. I do not regret doing it because I was able to be with my children all the time. We have to compromise in order to have a successful marriage. He does not agree with many things I like and I respect him. Also in many occasions I do not agree with things he does or likes and I tell him I do not agree with that. Communication is number one in our marriage.  My children always tell me I am too nice and not to tell him everything, but I guess this is how I am and this is why we get along. We talk about everything, we wake up talking and go to bed talking. He talks so much that sometimes I feel like I want to choke him but I guess we compromise. He loves to go shopping, and I do too. He is the perfect person to go shopping with. He makes sure I have everything that I can possibly need and more. I just make sure I eat before I go out with him. He tends to forget that I have to eat and it can be hours and hours shopping before I eat when I’m with him. One of the things that he does not like is to be alone. For instance if I have to go to visit my family in Mexico or travel to Arizona or Las Vegas he gets mad. He always says who is going to take care of the house. I tell him my twenty year old son is there. However he ends up taking vacation to take care of the dogs and the house. Instead of him helping and taking control after I live, my son ends up taking care of him too because he gets depressed  and would immediately go shopping for lots of things for me, so when I come home he receives me with lots of surprises. He just does not know how to be home alone. I recommend new couples to always be independent and consult everything with your partners. That does not mean you want your partner to decide for you, but you must let he/she know that you want to do things right and that you both approve on decision making or in new purchases. Save money for a rainy day. Share the house work evenly like 50-50 so both of you can be happy. If you both work make sure you communicate on the things you both like to eat. Best recommendation plan ahead if possible and always communicate and compromise. We enjoy gardening for many hours together. He does not like to paint, but I do, so if I want to paint the house he buys me what I need and I do it. To me this is compromising. I love my husband.